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With my birthday being tomorrow, I wanted to compile some of the great lessons I’ve learned in my life thus far!
18 Things I learned In 18 Years
Work for YOUR goals + do you: I use to (and still sometimes do) worry about what others thought about me, but there’s way more to life then constantly worrying about other’s feelings. So, the past 2 or 3 years I haven’t really cared what people thought of me. People will ALWAYS hate, be critical, and some even bitter, so do you boo boo! You’re working for a great life for YOURSELF, no one else.
Be positive, even in dark times: Now I know this one is easier said then done but it’s sooo necessary! I am a pretty positive and optimistic person, my family and my managers are always commenting on it! But honestly, it helps so much. Life gets tough and having a glimpse of hope to hold on to is a great thing to have.
Be open, especially in college: Whether you’re in college, graduated or it’s just not your thing, try new things! I love being adventurous, it’s one of my favorite qualities. I think it is sooo important to try new things and step out of your comfort zone! For example, I recently competed in Akt Like A Nupe, which is a stroll competition where different groups stroll like members of the frat Kappa Alpha Psi. So, I had to stroll and dance in front of HUNDREDS of people… I literally don’t dance (actually can’t dance), but hey I did it and got a lot of compliments and supportive comments! Step outside of your box!!
Our team name was Kulture and we strolled our little hearts out!
Never settle, in life, friendships and ESPECIALLY relationships: I’ll be the first to admit that friendships in high school are hard! You really find out who’s real, who’s fake, and who isn’t for you. College is great because most people are in the same boat, away from home and looking for friends. OU is great because there’s this whole Bobcat Family, which sounds cheesy but most people are genuine and sweet. So don’t settle! Also sometimes relationships are sketch, so don’t let your boyfriend/girlfriend disrespect you. I’ve seen my own friends and even myself, bend over backwards for guys they think are great, and it isn’t until you find someone that truly is great that you understand your worth.
Go after what you want + don’t be scared: College is good for this too! I use to always want to do something with a friend, but college has made me realize my independence. If I want to join a club I’ll do it and not rely on a friend to join me. Do something for yourself, and again step out of your comfort zone.
Stay humble and remember those who have helped you: I wouldn’t be the person I am if I didn’t have the guidance and the support that I have. My parents have done a lot for me and have helped me out time after time and I am very thankful for that!
Save your money: so important and so crucial, money isn’t everything, but it sure does help!
Some people are temporary: People come and go and that’s okay. If they’re meant to be in your life, they’ll stay in it.
Be kind when you can: This is soo important! Karma is real, so be nice.
Life isn’t fair and it isn’t always good: Sometimes things happen and life gets rough, but this happens to pretty much everyone. Push through and know that better days are coming. Life isn’t fair for some and I don’t ever think it will be, you just have to stay strong and motivated.
Laugh ALL the time: I love to laugh, my mom says I use to exhaust her when I was little because she would always do stuff to make me laugh. I’m so lucky I come from such a weird family that spends a lot of time laughing. My boyfriend is just as weird and keeps me laughing all day long. Sometimes ya just need a good laugh!
Learn to love + take care of yourself: Mental health is so important, and when stress comes into your life it’s important to take a step back. Make sure you take care of your body, eat well and make sure you wash and moisturizer your face! Also, learn to love yourself, it can be hard sometimes but don’t beat yourself up, sometimes you can be all that you have, so be kind to yourself.
Don’t judge others or yourself too much: Everyone judges, it’s pretty impossible not to, but live your life and let other people live theirs too.
“Boys are the gravy, not the mashed potatoes:” Ugh! I love this quote so much! And it’s so true! Guys are not everything and you definitely don’t need one to be happy! So important!
Be independent: You can’t live with your parents forever, so going off to school or getting a job is so important! It’s nice to be out here doing your own thing and (almost) adulting, even if you’re still pretty young!
Express your feelings: Keeping your feelings bottled up is not healthy at all, so express you feelings of happiness and sadness. If you like someone go for it, if it doesn’t work out, hey at least you know and aren’t stuck wondering!
Don’t make excuses: This one is big! This is so crucial during busy parts of your life, sometimes it can be hard to squeeze every thing in! You just have to push through and look at the big picture!
Don’t hold on to grudges or negative energy: I hate holding on to grudges and being mad at people. I have too many other things to worry about then to be mad at someone. I will just politely ignore you and go about my business. Nothing rude, no negative energy here!
Well if you made it to the end, congrats! Thank you so much for reading, and I hope you can take something away from this post!